I think you were born who you were supposed to be. Period. If as you grew you feel that you need to belong to the Jewish People then follow that direction. Sometimes our souls need more and search for it.
But honestly, knowing so many Jewish families that have gone through divorce, I wouldn't say that marrying a Jewish man would have given you marital stability. I had 2 Jewish girlfriends who divorced their nice Jewish husbands who used to hit them.
I also don't think things would have been different for your mom as a single mother if you had belonged to the Jewish community. Divorced women are not thought of very well among religious Jews, and Jewish law even forbids their remarrying men of certain pedigrees, like if they are cohanim. My girlfriend faced that when she went to remarry.
While family values are very important in Jewish ethics the most important thing is to be a good person. The important thing about a partner is that they are someone who in their heart is a really good person, and makes your heart sore.
If you want to be Jewish, find away to make it happen; but don't count on Chabad. But be advised, you'll have to give up that Chinese food you mentioned. i suspect it's not one of the kosher Chinese places in town.
[Note: I tried to write this 2 days ago. I'm not home, working with a library chromebook; it took EIGHT HRS for that verification code to come.]
I am happily married and my name is not David or Josh, so feel comfortable telling you I find your writing intriguing and your posts always informative, entertaining, and interesting, even when you write about LovieFluffy. Hashem placed your soul with a non Jewish family for a reason. Trust the Lord. We always have the option to convert, or not.
I think you were born who you were supposed to be. Period. If as you grew you feel that you need to belong to the Jewish People then follow that direction. Sometimes our souls need more and search for it.
But honestly, knowing so many Jewish families that have gone through divorce, I wouldn't say that marrying a Jewish man would have given you marital stability. I had 2 Jewish girlfriends who divorced their nice Jewish husbands who used to hit them.
I also don't think things would have been different for your mom as a single mother if you had belonged to the Jewish community. Divorced women are not thought of very well among religious Jews, and Jewish law even forbids their remarrying men of certain pedigrees, like if they are cohanim. My girlfriend faced that when she went to remarry.
While family values are very important in Jewish ethics the most important thing is to be a good person. The important thing about a partner is that they are someone who in their heart is a really good person, and makes your heart sore.
Yeah I wouldn’t convert to orthodox and I probably won’t convert. I’ll just be a Zionist friend.
If you want to be Jewish, find away to make it happen; but don't count on Chabad. But be advised, you'll have to give up that Chinese food you mentioned. i suspect it's not one of the kosher Chinese places in town.
[Note: I tried to write this 2 days ago. I'm not home, working with a library chromebook; it took EIGHT HRS for that verification code to come.]
I am happily married and my name is not David or Josh, so feel comfortable telling you I find your writing intriguing and your posts always informative, entertaining, and interesting, even when you write about LovieFluffy. Hashem placed your soul with a non Jewish family for a reason. Trust the Lord. We always have the option to convert, or not.
“Unlike a lot of women of my generation and younger, I really like men, and with the exception of sports, I like a lot of the things they like.”
Except sports.
I love that line.